Thursday, March 11, 2010

A Military Wife

-- I know we've all probably read poems about military wives here or there, but this one holds pretty true (and I've never seen it before, which is what makes it blog-worthy, haha). I slobbered up when I read the "planted annuals for us, but perennials for them" part -- I did that in England! I knew we would only have our first home there for two summers, and the second summer we would be getting ready to PCS (move), so the first year I planted annuals and the second year I planted lovely perennials for the new residents to enjoy. And the curtains....I did not realize how silly buying expensive curtains when we got married was! And recording addresses in pencil. I never write in ink in my address book anymore. My sister (also a military family) has moved so much that I actually ran out of space in the "H's" and had to buy a new address book! That's when I learned my lesson. Anyway -- just thought I'd share this!

A Military Wife: A Poem

Lots of moving...
Moving far from home...
Moving two cars, three kids and one dog...all riding with HER of course.
Moving sofas to basements because they won't go in THIS house;
Moving curtains that won't fit;
Moving jobs and certifications and professional development hours.
Moving away from friends;
Moving toward new friends;
Moving her most important luggage: her trunk full of memories.

Often waiting...
Waiting for housing.
Waiting for orders.
Waiting for deployments.
Waiting for phone calls.
Waiting for reunions.
Waiting for the new curtains to arrive.
Waiting for him to come home, For dinner...AGAIN!

They call her 'Military Dependent', but she knows better:
She is fiercely In-Dependent.

She can balance a check book;
Handle the yard work;
Fix a noisy toilet;
Bury the family pet...
She is intimately familiar with drywall anchors and toggle bolts.
She can file the taxes;
Sell a house;
Buy a car;
Or set up a move... .....all with ONE Power of Attorney.

She welcomes neighbors that don't welcome her.
She reinvents her career with every PCS;
Locates a house in the desert, The Arctic, Or the deep south.
And learns to call them all 'home'.
She MAKES them all home.

Military Wives are somewhat hasty...
They leap into:
Career alternatives,
And friendships. They don't have 15 years to get to know people.
Their roots are short but flexible.
They plant annuals for themselves and perennials for those who come after them.

Military Wives quickly learn to value each other:
They connect over coffee,
Rely on the spouse network,
Accept offers of friendship and favors.
Record addresses in pencil...

Military Wives have a common bond:
The Military Wife has a husband unlike other husbands; his commitment is unique.
He doesn't have a 'JOB'
He has a 'MISSION' that he can't just decide to quit...
He's on-call for his country 24/7.
But for her, he's the most unreliable guy in town!
His language is foreign
And so, a Military Wife is a translator for her family and his.
She is the long- distance link to keep them informed;
the glue that holds them together.

A Military Wife has her moments:
She wants to wring his neck;
Dye his uniform pink;
Refuse to move to Siberia;
But she pulls herself together.
Give her a few days,
A travel brochure,
A long hot bath,
A pledge to the flag,
A wedding picture,
And she goes.
She packs.
She moves.
She follows.

What for?
How come?
You may think it is because she has lost her mind.
But actually it is because she has lost her heart.
It was stolen from her by a man,
Who puts duty first,
Who longs to deploy,
Who salutes the flag,
And whose boots in the doorway remind her that as long as he is her Military Husband,
She will remain his military wife.
And would have it no other way.

--Author Unknown


terri said...

I love that poem! It is so great and so true. Thanks for sharing.
Terri Griffis
Realtor, Columbus, GA

Paula Kathlyn said...

Hey there! We are definitely in the same town :) I am so glad you commented! How exciting that you are expecting...I love being a mom. Next time we have a girls morning out, you should meet up with us. We are all military wives so you would fit in perfectly!